Whether it’s a romantic partner, a friend, prospective housemate or colleague, how can you determine your compatibility with another person?
Compatibility doesn’t mean that you are just alike in every way. In fact, on some dimensions it is more the case the opposites attract because you will balance one another’s strengths and weaknesses. However, it is helpful if you share some basic things in common, such as your core values.
Here are a few things you can use to discover your compatibility:
1) Determine if your values are aligned.
Crack open a bottle of wine or pop the kettle on and give yourselves some time to talk about issues that are most important to you. You could even start by discussing the traits that you appreciate in others. For example, is it better to be humble or to be famous? Is it more important to save the world, or to become wealthy? You’ll then get a good idea if your general values match up or if there might be conflict.
2) Discover your common interests.
Although having a diverse set of interests allows each of you to maintain a sense of independence, it is helpful to have at least a few common interests and activities that you can enjoy together. For example, do you both enjoy tennis, classical music, cycling or modern art? You can also build new interests together, so try picking up a new activity you can both enjoy.
3) Understand their personality- and yours.
When your personalities are similar, chances are that you will understand one another easily. For example, introverted types are likely to feel contented in the company of one another while an extrovert may become frustrated with an introvert who doesn’t like to go out to parties. A sensitive type may easily become upset or miss-interpret something from a tough-minded type. A flexible type who loves spontaneity may become frustrated or bored with a structured type who likes everything planned out. While it can be easier having similar personalities, it isn’t necessary for every dimension of your personality to be exactly the same in order to be compatible. Simply understanding one another is the best place to start.
One quick an easy way to establish your compatibility is to get together and take the free personality test on PersonaBubble. You can share and compare your results to uncover and learn more about your compatibility. You can use what you discover to spark a conversation and learn even more about your friends, family or colleagues. Let us know what you discover in the comment section below.